"In essence, you are neither inferior nor superior to anyone. True self-esteem and true humility arise out of that realization. In the eyes of the ego, self-esteem and humility are contradictory. In truth, they are one and the same." Eckhart Tolle
Early in my career when I was a young technology hotshot 😉, some of the other hotshots and I had a joke, which went like this …
When someone would ask if we knew such and such a technology, the snarky reply would be, “know it? I wrote it.”
Over the last few years, with a good deal more life experience, I’ve spent a lot of time reflecting on the ego--my own and others. I’ve seen how short a distance it can be to travel from confidence to over-confidence to arrogance, or, on the other side of the coin, how low self-esteem and insecurities can cause us to act out in many unwanted ways and directions. I see it regularly in my interpersonal relationships, in the healing community I’m part of, and in my professional life.
In my work with clients, part of my role is to look for hints of which side of this fine line folks are on, and how aware they are of its effects. By building on that awareness we can work on how to balance humility with confidence.
Every person is unique and has different needs, but balancing confidence and humility is a common theme among us all. By helping people shift their perspective, they see themselves, others and their situations differently, which helps them find balance. The good news is whether one is lacking confidence or humility, both are traits you can acquire, with focus and effort.
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